-a metaphor-
by JlB
Consider life as the consistent collision and reaction of people's realities on a daily basis. It happens moment-by-moment too. It's violent and frequent so try to envision that sometimes when reality mixes with reality (as defined in JpinDaily IV) the deadly result could take the form of a homicidal psychopath. On the other hand, however, the result could be a Green Peace revolutionary. In the one I'll describe, it will be an insecure individual perceived as weak and not confident whatsoever (by others) because one of the many determining factors regarding what happens when your reality (or anyone's) reacts with the surrounding realities, simply, is 'confidence'.
I say confidence has properties that makes it a volatile substance. If you don't believe me, you should observe it like you would observe a chemical reaction. Similar to some blue liquid in a test-tube undergoing an erratic chemical change-- smoking, igniting and then turning black --with the introduction of a catalyst; a room full of people is also adversely affected by the mind-altering chemical reaction caused by the introduction of the reality-tool known as Confidence.
The equation is the room full of people. Each person is mingling with another character in the room and everybody is happily perceived through the eyes of each respective brain. There are some blonds, a couple brunettes, a bar serving martinis-- the whole place is a moderately upscale endeavor --black dresses and ties, the usual. The key earlier-mentioning is that everyone is happy. Because unexpectedly, like the jaw-dropping, sudden shock of an 8.0 earthquake, the moods within the room begin to rattle, deteriorate and collapse like buildings with weak supports. Left standing amongst the rubble of men is those who are confident and nothing else.
The reaction occurred with the entrance of confidence (the confident man) into the room. Immediately, (before most people even notice it) body languages suddenly change; the common man's reaction to the confident man is one of acquiescence. He is overwhelmed with feelings similar to feeling of having lost the race-- he doesn't know how to handle feelings of loss. He doesn't know that if he ignores them that his confidence will regain momentarily if ever struck down. The confidence in that man is otherwise removed and left in its place is insecurity and vulnerability. His resulting body language and actions are perceived by the confident brains in the room and the weakness is noted and never mentioned (although the weaker ones will have trouble believing this).
However unspoken the fact may be, people frequently disassociate themselves with those who lack confidence because they seem to be weak. The insecure person broadcasts his insecurities as much as the confident person broadcasts his confidence-- the people just flock to the funnier of the two.
In (typical JpinDaily) short manner, when confidence comes into view, real emotions inadvertently come out. People mistakenly believe that self-confidence is former-success looking in the mirror and though this could be true, self-confidence could be better described as one of the many characteristics of the strong-willed (to be defined soon in Jpinions) and others who are determined to succeed. Confidence is like an entity in itself. Comparable to a black hole, when confidence is borne into existence in someone and nurtured to thrive-- the gravity of it is likely to suck-in or absorb much of the confidence from others.
Aside from the metaphors, in reality, the compiling of that confidence prolongs the amount of time that any respective human-being will remain confident presuming it is not a permanant personality trait. Regardless, because people often withdraw into introspective zones around confident people, that in itself could be viewed as the unfortunate yielding of one's own confidence to the confidently outgoing. Also that would be characterized as a gain or addition to the confident man's overall level of confidence. At this point Confidence behaves like the positivity-draining black hole mentioned in Chance (Jpinions IV), except this is a confidence-draining one.
Briefly, confidence is a natural indicator of success or at least perceived success. For the common man it is important for him to stay confident for the totality of life because life-- with all its grandeur and illusion --uses confidence to elude the feeling that lack of confidence incubates. The feeling of weakness, the feeling of inability-- the inferior feeling of can't. Confidence is a tool in my reality; through my eyes was a pack of brown bears-- men, they were called -- but their realities were insignificant and hardly evolved. The believed that they couldn't so suddenly they couldn't (do much) to the same degree that those who believe that they can generally can (and do).
By some rationales I say that the universe is not "for" us; I can also conclude that it is not "against" us. It is not 'for' us, however, which in the big picture of life means that it provides for circumstance to be against us. So if the universe can be interpreted as being against us then the only real thing that we actually have going for us in it is confidence.
Be confident people, commercial or perceptual success will be essentially non-existent for anyone suffering from a reality disorder with specific regard as it pertains to confidence.
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